Some guys are just like that. They aren't into monogamy, never will be. They will cheat on anyone they are with, and
that is no reflection on you. It's a character flaw that they
have to live with. It's not your fault.I was with my b/f for 3 years, the whole time there were other women...advice???
Counseling, sweetie... A therapist can help you understand his cheating has nothing to do with you, it's his lack of values. Pamper yourself, treat yourself to a nice trip, maybe a nice beach or a spa, and remember there used to be life before he came along, and there is no reason for life to cease now that the relationship ended.
it's not your fault. he is a loser, a user and a manipulator. learn a lesson from this and make sure your next relationship has more of a 50-50 kind of give and take to it. and remember, just because someone SAYS something doesn't make it true. Actions speak louder than words.
Pick a good guy next time and you will be fine. Best wishes.
Some people men and women alike dont care if they are seeing someone or many other people when they are in a relationship. They may do it just in case your relationship with them fails and others do it just because they like the thrill of doing something wrong. Some people are not meant to be in a realationship they dont understand what committment means.
guys can actually seperate thier love.... He loves you for the stability and wholesomeness you bring.... he loves his other girlsfriends cause they are naughty and play rough.......
don't take it out on yourself, it happens all the time..... you are not so special, that this isn't possible to happen....
just move on if you have a problem with it...
He did because he could. It`s not your fault, the best thing you did was leave. Not all men are like that, there is a good one out there for you, you just have to find him. Good luck in that.
Men literally think with their d*cks sometimes. There called players for a reason. I have been through a similiar situation before. You will find someone who is worth your time and effort one day, thank God not all men are like this.. Best wishes.
Some guys, and women too, are like that. They are never satisfied to be with or faithful to one partner. Be glad you weren't with him longer than 3 years and contacted an STD. My ex came back and gave me a present that keeps on giving. My best. Sparkles
DUMP THAT *** HOLE!! cheating is WRONG. but tell them about you first so hopefully they will stop fooling around with him to.
Don't let it bother you, he was the jerk in this relationship. You deserve someone better. Men are dogs.
Honey, you are not alone!! It is NOT your fault. Let this be a lesson on what some guys are capable of. Just an example: My ex-husband (ten years/five kids together) cheated with a co-worker and actually had the nerve to blame me for his affair! We had a great sex-life, great love story, he was my best friend.
he is a pig.
make sure you get all STD tests even if you protected yourself.
Thats a man for you. Its not your fault at all..its his! Dont blame yourself...heal yourself and move on!
You worth more then you feel right now so emerse yourself in family and friends..and see a doctor to make sure you are okay.
take care- You will be alright!
MEN! my bf did the same i was with him for 3 years, i had his baby and he was cheating though out the whole thing!
chuin up because der in some one out ther that was made for you and olny you!
Advice ??? yes, never see him again. I had a friend just like that, cheated while dating, he got married, cheated constantly on his wife,,,
this was a man u never really knew. your feeling badly because your basing it on how u felt, and how u gave everything, this man is not like u, and doesn't share your belief system or morals. there are just some things in life that we will never quite understand, and your ego is hurt, u feel no one loves u, because of what he did, but this was all about him and very Little about u or how good u treated him. how could he do this? its who he is and your just now seeing it.
Perhaps he is a sex addict. It's not as uncommon as you might think.
';how could someone do this to you'; YOU allowed someone to do this to you. YOU made the choice to stay with this guy for three years. Quit blaming him for the choices that YOU made.
He could do it because the opportunity was there. It is that simple. You gave the relationship all that you could give, and this happened. Do NOT associate those two things with future relationships. Always be yourself and do things because they make you feel good. Of course you have to compromise, but don't sell yourself out. He gave you the whole sales pitch and may have even loved you, but with a lot of guys his level of committment in love wasn't enough to keep it in his pants (if he in fact did cheat). Like I have said a hundred times on here....all men and women are capable of cheating, and if they really want to then there is nothing you can do to stop it. Just keep your head up. Be proud of how you acted in the relationship. When the time is right give that same effort to someone else who is hopefully more deserving and appreciative.
don't worry! and keep your head up! he obviously didn't know what he had. but eventually he will realize that there is no one else like you and he will regret everything that he did to you. its sad how people think that they could get away with things, and they forget that carma always gets you back. and also don't forget that who ever laughs last laughs the best!
my moto : when you lose something its because something better is on its way! smile!
I was married for 15 years. Like you, I gave him everything. Our sex life was great. I thought we had the perfect marriage. For 15 years he was screwing anything that had a skirt on. I was blind for 15 years...or was I? Maybe he was a very good actor. I think its human nature to blame ourselves, but the reality is, some men just havent got any morals. With some men, it doesnt matter what you do for them or how much you have sex with them, they just cant help themselves with other women. I worked out that my ex was just a very insecure and immoral man. He did not know how to commit properly I have been divorced now for over 10 years and I was right, he hasnt got a decent bone in his body. Its one thing to cheat on me, but his lack of responsibility and love has affected his children. They are adults now and cant stand their father. He hasnt got a paternal bone in his body and the day we divorced was the day he gave up on his children too. The kids didnt do anything wrong either, he just didnt care about them. Your boyfriend obviously has a personality flaw like my ex has. You just have to accept that there are these kind of people in the world. Nothing you did made him the way he is. Its lucky you found out what kind of man he is before you married him dont you think? Just be assured you did nothing wrong....he is the one who has a huge personality problem. He probably will never change and he will cheat on all the women in his life. When he is old and finds he hasnt got anyone who genuinely loves him, will be the day he will regret the life he led when he was younger. It will catch up to him. Don't spend too much time grieving over a man like this. You did nothing wrong. There are genuine men in this world who would never cheat on you, so dont let this bad experience ruin it for you with other men OK? Take care wash your hands of this scum and find someone who trully deserves you.
Don't blame yourself for his shortcomings...at least you can walk away saying you gave the relationship your all. It's not your fault he is an idiot who can't keep it in his pants. You will find and deserve better. One of these days, he's going to realize what he screwed up...
That's a really good questions.........HOW COULD HE?!?!!? It's not your fault.....the guy was just a dipstick......That was a 3 year relationship that you need to look back on and learn from. Don't close yourself out from other men though....there is a guy out there for you........you just have to believe that. Don't feel like it's your fault......its not you fault he's an idiot!!!! If you were giving him everything he needed...........then he was stupid to cheat on you. start over.............
Guys are biologically programmed to want to hump as many hot girls as humanly possible. And they want sex almost all the time.
But women (usually) want just one male provider who is going to stick around for the long term. i.e. a guy who is not going to go chasing after other women.
There is your problem right there. Men and women were created/evolved to want different things.
Could it be said: ';Were you to really love me Joe...you would foresake all other women and stay with me, so that we could live together and start a family.'; You hear it a lot, but recognize that is a female-centric viewpoint.
The male-centric version would be this: ';Were you to really love me Jane....you would let me satisfy my sexual desires by letting me sleep with all these other women...';
American society frowns on this because it doesn't promote a stable family. Although the effect is that it stifles or squelches natural male tendencies. The guy is expected to just repress or control it.
For both genders-- you can't realistically expect one partner to satisfy ALL of your needs. Even with a guy who was lucky enough to be with the hottest girl on the planet. Let's say she was Helen of Troy, for example...
It wouldn't even matter. Because the male will want something else eventually. It's sort of like having dinner. You might really love Italian food, but eating Italian food every day your entire life -- you would eventually want something else.
Now if you broke out for some Mexican food once in awhile, does that imply that you don't love Italian food? No. But... unlike food... women are not merely objects for consumption.
Their desire (typically) is for the guy to stay exclusively committed to them... for if they don't, their own feminine needs will not be satisfied. And they will usually dump the guy.
This is the real reason why guys sneak around behind the girls back. They have sexual desires for variety and don't want to repress it; but they also know that if she ever found out, the relationship with the one they like the most would be over.
But the dictates of women impose this rule upon men -- either you satisfy my female desires and stay true and faithful to me; repressing your own biological male desires; or I'm going to leave your a** out in the cold.
A guy who goes for both...often winds up with neither in the end. But it is not his fault. This is simply how he is programmed.
Because he is a jerk.
No, not all guys are like that. Forget about him ASAP.
i was in that same situation
he was probably insecure, selfish, immature, and stupid. he had a great thing going obviously, and he screwed it up.
the best thing for you to do is to learn from it and not let it happen again. you should be with someone who you can trust and they can trust you back.
good luck in the future!
He's selfish. That's the ONLY reason people cheat.
Don't spend another second thinking about him. You're better off and you know it so that's the first step to being happy again.
It was easy, you allowed it, don't you see. He got away with it the first time and saw you didn't care or notice so, he tried once again. And. of course he got away with it again so, he kept on.
You see, you allowed it, in a way, it was your fault.
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