My MIL offended me when she said, all amerian women are sluty hungry money women,Advice?

My husband is from Russia and when I first met his mother she asked ';Are you one of those Americans''? I asked ';what do you mean by one of ';those Americans';?


The lazy, uneducated, money hungry slutty women'' ( This is translated from her ';Russian Language';)


I told her no that I am an Educated women, who has a job and If you really want to know, I am a virgin. I told her this and she called me liar. That was almost 3 years ago and I have been working my *** off to prove her wrong. But every time she turns on the tv and sees all of the ';crap';, I can some what understand how she is getting these views?


Suggestions please. Most of his family has the same views of Americans...Suggestions on how I can fix that?My MIL offended me when she said, all amerian women are sluty hungry money women,Advice?
Ignore her. If your example as a good woman doesn't change her mind then nothing will. People think what they want to think regardless of any proof to the contrary.My MIL offended me when she said, all amerian women are sluty hungry money women,Advice?
Take her to any Peeler Bar in North America!


Most of her relatives are there!
Welcome to the world of Russian moms, My family is Ukranian, my stepmother was born in Ukraine and has very specific views of how a wife should be. My poor SIL has been through hell and back, but my brother fought on, they are married she is all american, my brother raised bilingual, and with strong Ukranian culture, i.e. children are not taught english until the age of 5, special school on saturday to learn about the culture and heritage. My mom is american and my dad half Ukranian so I wasnt brought up that way. My brother broke out, my nephew though still an infant will learn English as a first language and Ukranian as a 2nd, My SIL and stepmom dont get along and most likely never will as they will never see eye to eye... Its the culture, you either have to brush it off, and deal with it, or it will eat you alive. Good luck I understand how difficult it is for you. My stepmom spent years trying to get me with guys from Ukraine and I refused, I am not submissive enough and would not be able to deal with cultural strictness, and yes the rudeness the speaking of Ukranian in the home and no English, lucky for me I have been around it so much I can muddle my way through a conversation. Best wishes
ever seen the movie, ';Every which way but loose'; with Clint Eastwood, when he says, ';right turn Clyde';.......she should reverse the roles, cause there are too many American Men doing this.......
Who cares what she thinks. If you don't like us in America leave our country. Russian women sue don't have a better life as the Americans. Tell her to leave our USA
everyone has the right to thier own opinion....
u dont have to proove yourself to anyone but your husband u r not married 2 his family mil some woman cant stand their sons needing and wanting another woman in their life b polite 2 her 4 your husbands sake and no other reason she is showing ignorance and own lack of education
That was really cold of her to say that. It's obvious she has not clue what she is talking about. Forget about it and try not to let it bother you. I know it won't be easy.





The bright side is: Thank God that she doesn't live with you guys. That would be a mess. She would probably kill your marriage with her son. Sounds to me she is an evil woman and a very heartless woman to me. I would put her in her place. You don't need her abuse
If you want to talk to her just show that their are both kinds of women in all nationalities.
Blame the nausty American women! and the crap shows. They do show the world how bad Americans are. It is even worse when you met one bad American then it just link you to all bad. Your husband should be the one defends you. His mother should trusts his son married a wonderful woman. If not, something is wrong with this family and mother/son relationship. Tell her how many Russian women try to cheat American men to get green cards and $. Russia has mother F***lazy, uneducated, money hungry slutty, real hungry, fat women.... OR... Simplely ingore her... away from her...
You cant fix it. You cant change someone's OLD mentality and clearly that's what your MIL's mentality is. As long as you are being true to yourself and your hubby, then that's all that matters...
You can't change her views on American women....she is going to believe what she wants to believe...why would you want to work your azz off to prove her wrong? If she really feels that you are one of ';those Americans';.. who are ';lady,uneducated, money hungry slutty women';....Have her prove it!!
Tell her, ';Surprise! I was born in Leningrad!';
i have no idea.. you can just let time take it course or maybe rent a few movies.. showing what bad russians are like.. see how they like it
Tell her the cold war is over. Keep doing your best at everything you do, especially being a good wife and mom.
You aren't going to be able to change her opinion. She sounds like a pain in the @ss mil and it's up to your husband to straighten her out. If she's treating you disrespectfully it's because he allows it to happen. Tell him it's HIS responsibility to make sure she treats you with respect. It's HIs mom, not yours. Good luck.
Never ignore a statement like that! Also don't get on the offensive or defensive! The truth be told we all, save the American Indians, come from somewhere else. I would ask around about your genealogy and find your roots. It's O.K. to be proud to be an American, but to these people, it's probably a better tactic to cling to your roots and learn as much as you can about them. If you were lets say Irish, and she trashed that, then the lines are drawn and she is looking for a fight, and girl, give it to her! But, Russians don't have too high a regard for Americans, with the exception of the young women, who just love us to death! If there is a younger daughter on the Russian side you can be sure you have an advocate there.
Why are you trying to prove anything to this woman? She wouldn't have liked you if you were Russian, either. She is the kind of MIL who doesn't think anyone is good enough for her little boy. Your husband needs to have a talk with her and tell her she needs to treat you nicely or she will never be allowed to see her grandchildren. HE should be backing you up and you should not try to prove anything. We all know that TV shows are fiction. Most people don't act like that. You need to get your husband to support you more and tell his mother to back off. Get a backbone and insist on some respect, girl.
First of all if it isn't true you have nothing to prove so you need to stop the foolishness, ok? The next time the subject comes up tell her there are 2 catagories of Americans. The slutty and money hungry kind and the second, you. You are the educated, hard working kind of American. Then when she talks about the first slutty kind you agree with her and say ';I know.......aren't they terrible?'; wink Then you are agreeing with her about ';those'; terrible kind of Americans and there is nothing to argue about. I would also say don't give her any personal info. like you being a virgin. What was that about? The more info. people have, the more they info. they have to distort. Good luck!
Give her a bottle of Vodka.
Unfortunately, this perception of america is primarily media based. She has formed an opinion of American women based on what she has been shown on TV. Personally (from similar experience) she probably thinks the sun shines out of your *** and is keeping you on your toes, so you will keep proving yourself worthy of her son. Keep your chin up!
Here's the key to all of life.


You are not responsible for another's words, actions or behavior, only your own.





So, is your MIL telling you the truth?


Yes, and you've got something to work on.


No, and you have no quarter with her degradation. You do not need to respond in any fashion to a lie. If you have been ';working your *** off to prove her wrong';, what truth do you think she spoke?


Your life is not wrapped up in her opinions. Reset the boundary and take control of your own life.


Na strovia (sp)
I am russian.


What she is doing is testing you to see if you are stong mentally, hang in there, Russian women are strong, she wants to make sure that if another woman is going to take her son away from her, she needs to be strong. Picking on you being slutty and money hungry is just an excuse, something that just happen to fall into her hands, so she is using it.


If she doesn't stop, then tell her that you are not following the crowd and that you are trying to break the stereotype, and look up what a stereotype is, she might not be educated enough to know that word :)


and one more thing. mother in laws (svekrov') are notorious for having a hate-hate relationship with their in-laws, all around the world....Good thing she is not talking about the fact that as a woman you belong in the kitchen cooking/cleaning and rasing babies for your husband.


Be strong....russian women are strong...don't give up, and break, becuase she is testing you, keep that in mind.


Good luck
wow they need to look no further then their homeland...where prositution is at an all time high.
Thats intresting. So how many other American women do they know?


And why did I kind of laugh when I find they judge American women from what they see on television? Thats insane.





To be honest I don't really know anything to help you sway their opinion of you.





All you can do is tell them your sorry that they make decisions based upon what they see on television instead of getting to know you.
slap the *****
Stop trying to please her or justify yourself. The fact that your husband, her son, married you, should be good enough. You can never change her views and that's ok. Her views are prejudice and non-educated anyway. Be yourself, be the good wife that you are to your husband and that's all you have to worry about. Remember, people come to America for opportunities they cannot have in their country. We are fortunate to live in such a great country. Be proud to be an American and act proud! Your actions speak louder than words.
hon, you can't change someone's opinion, even tho you know what was said was really wrong. most people from other countries don't like us americans because americans were viewed in a bad way in their home when they were younger. and other reason she may hate americans, because she only sees one side of the story. so you know what? nevermind what your mil says about you or americans, the only important thing is that your husband loves you. and that's all that's important.
find you a american man