Should this be over? MEN AND WOMEN ADVICE NEEDED!?

This is the situation: I have know this guy for six months. We have met each other out a few times and I know that he was interested in me. I never really heard much from him during the week because I thought things were just progressing. One night we met out and had one of the best nights together. I didn't hear from him till the end of the week, we touched base and that was that. Then another week passes and he messages me. We arrange to met up because he wants to sort out what was going on. He told me that he likes me and that i am a nice person etc... but he doesn't want a relationship. He said he was distant cause he didn't know how to handle the situation, and even asked friends for advice. It was genuine, he didn't want to hurt my feelings but he still wanted to spend time with me. I told him I didn't know if I wanted a relationship, and that if he liked each other then we should just let it be what it is. After spending yet another good night together, I don't hear from him again for a week. I know that he doesn't want a relationship, but I am starting to feel like nothing will progress. I am getting hurt in the process because i like him and can't understand why he can go from having an amazing time with me to zero (being no communication). He is a nice guy I must emphasize that. But how can i tell him that I don't think I can see him if all we have is one night every so often (two weeks or so). I know he will get bored too, so what can i do? I like this guy.Should this be over? MEN AND WOMEN ADVICE NEEDED!?
This guy seems like he's trying to sort out a lot. I honestly don't think talking with him is going to help him sort things out more clearly, so if it were me, I would take a different approach. Rather than telling him, I would start dating different guys and not be exclusively available to him. So if he asks you out and you have a date with someone, tell him you have plans and can't meet him. Anyway, why are you sitting and waiting for him? Why aren't you out dating the field and getting to know other guys? In no way do I mean you should be sleeping with them. This is where you need to stop giving the milk away for free. It's only making it hard on you, not him. You are kind of contradicting yourself and blackmailing him if you tell him you can't see him if you're not in a relationship. Nobody called it a relationship, but with sex in the picture, that seems clearly what you want it to be. Be honest with yourself, you can't expect every guy to want a relationship with you just because you have sex. If you enjoy his company, keep the sex out of it until the guy wants to give you a committment.Should this be over? MEN AND WOMEN ADVICE NEEDED!?
Thanks, my purpose is to help, and glad that my answer helped you. Isabella, believe in your heart that you are a precious human being, a human treasure that is so special that you demand the very best in a man, one who will win your heart and offer a clear commitment. Hold out, and believe in u.

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Maybe he doesn't want to call or hang out (too much) because he doesn't want to lead you on and does not want to hurt your feelings.





If you are fine being friends only, continue to be his friend, however, if you continue to have strong feelings and can't handle being friends only, then I would recommend moving on.





Good luck.
If by ';best nights ,good nights and amazing time'; you mean sex, then here it is hon:


He is USING YOU FOR SEX!


Can I get a ';duh huh'; here?


Now if you meant INSTEAD that you just had a good time, it sounds like he has his eye on someone else but your his 2nd choice maybe 3rd.


I'd move on and if you are having sex with guys you barely know,keep in mind sex makes babies and all birth control has a failure rate AND condoms do NOT protect from herpes aids and getting used as a human sex toy hon.


I am NOT saying you are having sex, but it is hard to know exactly what you meant by ';best night,good night,amazing time'; this day and time.
Confront him and ask him why there is such longer breaks between the time yall spend together. If he gives you some bull **** answer then he probably is messing around with a lot of different girls. if that is the case, then i would say don't waste your time and energy on a guy like that. I know you say he is a very nice guy, but a lot of ';nice guys'; that say they don't want a relationship are usually sleeping with a lot of different women. these guys are manipulative and know how to keep a nice, beautiful girl and not have to deal with commitment. i know from experience with a guy that i would meet up with every once in a while and it would be weeks before he would call me again, but stupid me would answer and simply agree to meet up. Because i did not ignore his behavior, he learned that he could just call me to meet up whenever and i would not do anything about it and keep letting him treat me like ****. I hope this guy is not like that and he had a valid excuse, good luck